Classification
Me: Fearful-Avoidant
Partner: Dismissing-Avoidant
Pair type: Hot-cold Mismatch — Fearful approaches and retreats; avoidant keeps distance. High instability unless both commit to slower pace.
Attachment 2D map
12-week forecast
Gottman 5:1 magic ratio
Methodology: Bartholomew & Horowitz (1991) four-category attachment ·
Fraley et al. (2000) ECR-R dimensions · Gottman (1994) Four Horsemen + magic ratio ·
Scheffer et al. (2009) critical slowing early-warning signals.
Forecasts are damped linear extrapolation with mean reversion, not Bayesian —
treat as trend scenarios, not probabilistic predictions.